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/PAT/ General | Porn-aholics Anonymous Thread Anonymous 12/12/2022 (Mon) 01:05:11 ID: c6a27b No.22229
Hello Brothers and Sisters in Christ. Like many of you I myself am struggling with pornography addiction and have been trying to beat this illness for the better part of 3 years now. I'm dedicating this thread to all my other brothers in arms out there who are fighting the good fight against the wiles of the devil, Lucifer, and his legion of degeneracy he throws our way. I'll be using this thread as both a catalogue of my own experiences, so that they may be used by others for their own benefit, and as a place to store, discuss, and share data, tips, and motivation so as to help us addicts overcome our desire so that we may enjoy life as God intended with clarity of mind and spirit.
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>>22229 Ive been browsing through this book Titled "Onania". Its a bit strange to read and quite longwinded but i think there is value in it. I'd only recommend you read it if you are of clear mind tho since the majority of the meaning would be lost otherwise. https://ia800201.us.archive.org/32/items/b20442348/b20442348.pdf
>porn addict for 8+ years now i just wish i had some kind of outlet, but modern women are atrocious and Godly women might as well not exist. it doesn't help that this is an unprecedented point in human history, all societal standards have been thrown out and it seems like nothing short of the complete collapse of the west is going to fix it, but then porn would be the last thing on your mind in that situation. one thing i've tried that does help is to print off a calendar and mark off each day you avoid porn. that way you can keep a streak going and get a visual aid of how far you've come. my record right now is about 50, which is still kinda pathetic, and I was lying to myself for a large portion of it since i'd look at lustful images on other boards, when I should be avoiding it at all costs. i've also developed a few ways to aid in that way, since porn and imageboards go hand in hand: >if it's spoilered, don't click it. always assume it's porn. >if you have reason to believe it is not porn or absolutely want to see what it is, scroll so it's at the bottom of the page, open it up, and scroll down very slowly to see if it's porn or not. if you see skin, close it. >if your peripheral vision sees something that is most definitely porn, cross your eyes and hide the offending images or the post entirely. disable hidden post stubs so you're not tempted to open it up again. are there any other ways you can avoid it? when it's at its peak it's almost inevitable that I'm going to indulge in it, my mind cannot think about anything else until it's satiated.
>>22231 >porn addict myself for about 6-7 years now >18, highschool i feel you, im lucky to go to a Christian school and live in a generally more conservative area but its still hard to find somebody who isnt already taken as well as worthwhile. A few months back i had a good streak of about 2 weeks. It was partially due to a crush i have on a girl, i didnt want to defile her in my mind but at the same time i didnt want to lust after other women. It lead to this weird kind of equilibrium where i would be horny and aroused but wouldnt want to watch porn of fully commit to masturbating. This experience makes me think that i cant simply just go on ignoring my natural desires anymore, I need to control them instead. Use my sexual energy elsewhere and direct it toward obtaining certain goals. I dont know how exactly im going to do this but i think its the way forward, atleast for me. I think my biggest weakness is lack of motivation. Which is kinda crazy when ive spent my entire life starring down evil. I guess im desensitized. Ill try to figure something out. Interesting tip about the whole calendar thing, might try it out for myself.
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>>22234 amen.
>Be alone. >Make myself sad by thinking of my regrets, actions, and inactions. >Want to masturbate too feel better. >Do so. >Feel worse, say out loud that I hate myself. >Start believing if I don't masturbate again then, i'll do it anyway later; so I should get it over with. >Masturbate again. >Lie in a melancholic state for quite a while. >Might eventually pray, but am often too demoralized and guilty too do so.
>>22242 I can relate to this far too often. Not sure what to do in that situation other than force a positive attitude and pray.
>>22242 If I had a penny for every time I went through the exact cycle that you described, Elon Musk would be crying himself to sleep at night because he knew he could never be as wealthy as I. What it ultimately boils down to is shoring up one's faith in the vastness of Christ's mercy, and the sufficiency of His life, suffering, death and resurrection to deliver us from the penalty and power of sin. Remember what God says about righteous men: "For a righteous man may fall seven times And rise again, But the wicked shall fall by calamity." -Proverbs 24:16 You may fall again and again, but lean on Christ and He shall lift you up each time. Notice also how the number 7 ties into Christ's encouragement of unlimited forgiveness: "Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven." -Matthew 18:21-22 Christ commands us mere mortals to forgive other sinners an unlimited amount of times. How much more generous is Christ than us because of His Holiness, longsuffering, and delight in showing mercy? One of the things that I've learned during the cycle you've described is that one of the worst things you can do is delay in going back to Christ. All you end up doing is unnecessarily further distancing yourself from Christ and needlessly drawing out the pain and anguish and despair even more than necessary. As someone once said, we are sadly often bold in sin, and shy in repentance, when it should be the opposite: "Seeing then that we have a great high priest, that is passed into the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our profession. For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need." -Hebrews 4:14-16
>>22247 amen, never give up.
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easypeasymethod.org God is ALL the help we need, but this resourse helps you to know the dangers of porn, how your brain works and how to stop STOP FOOLING YOURSELF, YOU GOT THIS! and when we cant fight by ourselves we have God and his hands yesterday i was about to watch pron and suddenly my internet crash, just minutes before i was praying to God to stop me. >you DONT need porn >the anxiety and stress you have its cause by it and not relief by it God loves you and want you to be free
>>22354 John Doyle has a good video about it for those who don't want to read
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Keep Christ in your hearts always, friends. Everything you hope to accomplish, ask of Him, >Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. Matthew 7:7 Do not be deceived that by your own ingenuity you can succeed, for only by the will of God are your goals accomplished: >Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to such and such a city, spend a year there, buy and sell, and make a profit”; whereas you do not know what will happen tomorrow... Instead you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we shall live and do this or that.” James 4:13, 15 You do not and you cannot take away your own sins: it is the blood of Christ that purifies your soul and sanctifies your spirit to abandon sin by the power of the Holy Spirit: >Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean; >Wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow. >Create in me a clean heart, O God, >And renew a steadfast spirit within me. >Restore to me the joy of Your salvation, >And uphold me by Your generous Spirit. >Then I will teach transgressors Your ways, >And sinners shall be converted to You. Psalm 51:7, 10, 12-13
>>22229 I'm tired of porn but not enough to quit
>>23544 By the time you are tired of it it'll be too late and a lot harder to stop
>>22354 It'd be wonderful if someone did a spirit-led, faith-based fork of this work. It's good, but it could be a lot better tbh.
>>23546 Who's gonna read it tho? From personal experience I'm most dedicated right after failing but that's also when i have the least attention span. That's why I've never cared about easypeasy.
>>23547 Lol. Obviously some anon other than you ofc, Mr. Blackpill! :^)
>>23548 just being real, if we assume that most porn addicts are low attention span which evidence suggests is true then why are we to assume that theyre gonna want to read a long book like easypeasy. I dont even think i made it through the first chapter before i clicked off to go watch youtube or something. If you want to reach coomers then it would serve you well to shorten and simplify things as much as possible without lessening the message.
Man, I should just ignore sites or any topics related to whatever horny it is because I would be more hypocritical than others since those others can also care about everything else. I am horny and I need to confess and just stop.
another "trick" i got, dont think about "suriviving" X days without P or Mtion if you feel the urges just think: I HAVE TO ENDURE TODAY thats all the urges goes away you dont need to think you have to actually hold out 1,10,100 years, endure everyday, it will get easy after 3 or more weeks
what do you guys think of the idea of a porn journal? every time you get a craving for porn you stop what youre doing and write about how you feel in your journal. Maybe that would provide enough of a stop to prevent cooming?
My Christian friend recommend i got to a faith based 12 step program for my porn habit, i've already completed the first step, well see how it goes.
>>23749 good luck
I'm genuinely considering getting a chastity cage to keep myself from masturbating. Is this a good idea?
>>24062 Mind over matter. Chastity is of the will, restraining your body in such a way won't help you much. But that being said it wouldn't hurt to try.
>>24062 >using fetish gear to solve sexual immorality.
the "three weeks" concept doesn't seem to apply to porn addictions. i can go three or more weeks without porn, but after a while it all comes back up and it is incredibly difficult to resist urges, it is impossible to get off the mind and it effects my productivity and focus on other things. i've relapsed for about three days in a row over the weekend and I feel awful about it. I still haven't confessed my sins to God, that's what I dread the most is knowing that you're wrong but feeling too ashamed to admit it. >>24062 no, it's a stupid idea, because you'll still have the keys to the cage so you could unlock it any time. you'll also risk injuring yourself wearing it for prolonged periods.
>>24066 it really takes about 2 months so ive heard. Ive had similar problems, after about a week it starts getting bad unless im actively doing something 24/7.
>>24065 Devices to prevent you from masturbating predate the BDSM subculture by quite a bit. >>24066 >you'll still have the keys to the cage so you could unlock it any time Good point.

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