Thank you for posting this in the male advice thread. You've no idea how many ill-mannered blow-ins decide to vomit their witless demands all over whichever thread they happen to have scrolled down to.
You ask us to clarify two things, and I will - but in return, would you answer a question for us? I'll ask it at the end.
First, please keep in mind as you read that cuckqueaning is a deeply personal thing to every cuckquean, once you get into the details. There are various common elements that some cuckqueans share with some other cuckqueans, and so some words have developed because terminology helps condense bundles of more complex concepts down and gives them handles that help us talk about them. So, it'll be important as you read these answers to remember that the map is not the territory, and I am not representative of anything or anyone but myself.
>First and formeost, how different and separate are the humiliation and compersion aspects? Is it strictly one or the other or some varying mix of both?
It differs from cuckquean to cuckquean, and I sincerely hope some of my fellow posters will chime in with their insights too. Some will hew strongly to one pole or the other, some will experience both simultaneously, others will focus on one or the other depending on their moods, and still others will seek both separately. We distinguish between humiliation-driven and compersive cuckqueans because that was once the subject of a small holy war, so having both labels circulating immediately reassures both types that they're in good company. I hope that some of my fellow cuckqueans will be able to chime in and give examples of how they experience the fetish, because it's important for you to see that it is
Allow me to warn you that falling in love with these labels is tempting, but a bad idea. If you treat cuckquean classifications like horoscopes you'll come to ruin, or at the very least end up missing a lot. Experience and map, then
classify and categorise.
I, for example, am nearly completely compersive and the idea that it would be humiliating for my man to fuck other girls with my full-throated encouragement is a little alien. I understand it, empathise with it, can mimic it if I try, can imagine being inside a humiliation-driven head with some effort, but it is not where I live. My compersion has its own unique details which may or may not mesh with how other compersive cuckqueans experience the fetish, such as my desire to nurture and serve, my mania for scent, and my focus on my man's (as opposed to the vixen's) pleasure.
But even for me, this isn't 100% ironclad. I remember a time just before my man was about to head out to play with a vixen solo, when he had me straddle and grind against his erect cock, both our underwear still being on. He folded his arms, gave me this smug look, and told me I could do that all I wanted (and I did
want, very much) but that all his cum was going into <vixen name> tonight, so there'd be none for me. Usually when I go down into subspace it's a controlled descent, but his words right then were like a face-kick that sent me spiralling straight down into the depths. He told me later that I started slurring, nearly lost the ability to talk, which surprised me because I thought I was begging (all the better for him to refuse) in between humping his crotch and pressing my face against it. None of it made sense, but I don't have to make sense when I'm horny.
But if he told me at that moment that <vixen>'s pussy felt so good that he never wanted to use mine again? I think I'd probably have collapsed into a crying ball, and not the good kind. Yet that's exactly
what some other girls want to hear, what they need
So: Yes, it can be a mix, but exactly what
goes into that mix is tremendously important.
>Because while I can totally empathise and relate to the compersion part, I feel really really uncomfortable taking part in feeding into a thing if it's mostly masochistic humiliation. I feel like if my waif is masochistic, I should rather be working with her to find the source of the trauma or something? Am I wrong for thinking this? Please do tell if I am or not.
Oi, cut that out, don't think we can't see you trying to outsource your superego! (And there's that fucking "trauma" word again; that damned cult has a lot
to answer for.) Anyway.
If your wife wanted you to spank her, which has masochistic elements, would you feel it to be a symptom of an underlying neurosis? How about if she wanted you to slap her, as a treat? Pull her hair? It's true that sometimes these can be ways of expressing and processing damage caused by traumatic experiences, but it's not as common as the present breathless pop-psychological culture would have you believe.
I love a good whack on the rump because it's stimulating, naughty, and asserts my place beneath my man. Does my enjoying it mean I am expressing ~*~trauma~*~? Hell, could be - I can't diagnose myself, by definition. But it doesn't feel bad, and it doesn't AFAIK link into any detrimental complexes or maladaptive behaviors, so under any standard diagnostic criteria it'd be of little concern on its own. Constantly ferreting for mysterious trauma can itself be neurotic, albeit the kind of neurotic that certain practitioners find very good for revenue.
>I've been deathly phobic of lesbians cucking me. I've had this happen to me before my marriage with a previous relationship in fact, a bi girl in middle school who hated me "turned out" by then straight gf to spite me and I've not taken the rejection well.
What a bitch. I'm sorry that happened to you. For all my contempt towards the overuse of trauma, it's true that bad things can leave behind nasty scars in our minds.
>So what I want to know and be prepared for is, how much bisexuality is involved in cuckqueaning. I just want the facts so I know what I've gotten into.
Again, it depends. Example: I'm not into girls on their own, but I know when they're cute and I'm into my guy being into them. Tits are nice, pussies too, and both are improved by my man's enjoying them. Does my thinking pretty pussies, bountiful breasts, humpable hips and bouncy butts look fuckably fun make me bisexual? I don't feel so, and while others might disagree their opinion is irrelevant to whether I
want to have sex with another woman or not, and since I don't
want, the matter remains closed.
Yet I like spreading vixens open for him, I sometimes enjoy warm physical contact with a vixen while she's being fucked, and one time my man handed me the remote control to a vibrator in a vixen while she was blowing him, which I found fun because it was like I was helping train her to serve him better. But if one tried to kiss me? No thanks, not unless it's around my man's dick as part of a double blowjob, and even then if I felt she was making a little much of it I'd probably back off. Or maybe if she was doing it to share a little of her post-blowjob mouthful with me (how polite!). If one tried to touch my pussy? Uh-uh, that's not for you. If one wanted me to eat her out? No.
I think I'd probably lap up a creampie, but since he's never come raw in a vixen it's a moot point, and in any case it's more about his cum than her pussy for me. Some might take these things as an opportunity to tie themselves into introspective knots over these things, but I'm honestly not terribly worried about it because I already know what I want, and what I want is my man in other women, not the other women themselves.
Some cuckqueans are super
into girls, to the point where their cuckqueaning seems to involve their sexual bond with their man being stolen away and replaced by a nominally-involuntary sexual bond with the vixen instead, but I can't explain that one from the inside. Maybe someone who identifies with that will chime in.
Others are casually bisexual because they want to put on a show, still others because it's fun to help out. Yet others are strictly hands-off, with zero sexual interest beyond what their man is doing.
See how the details matter?
Okay, I said at the start that I had a question for you:
>One day, she tells me she likes the idea of cuckqueaning very much. I just laugh it off and be like, what I'd consider the typical guy thing to do, was say how lucky I am or something. She says she doesn't want to bring the fetish to reality, but would just rather we larped about it. Absolutely fine by me. Only now I've been frantically going through every thread here and the archives of 8kun all day pretty much to understand as much as I can because I remember coming across this board name long ago. Just so that I can get my bearings.
You've asked us a lot about what cuckqueaning is and its details, but you've not told us the most important thing: What does your wife think it is? Have you asked her? She wants to LARP it, but what, in her mind, would that involve?
>PS I dont know if my wife browses this board either
Hey, Anon's wife! Your husband seems sincere, if a little jumpy, so I'm sure he'll calm down and find his feet with a bit of encouragement and practice. Here's a free field-tested cuckquean LARPing tip: Lie face up, have him kneel over you, facing towards your feet, and then have him fuck your tits or your hands. Great view IMO, and you can even pull him "out" and suck on him a bit from time to time. Your imagination will be able to fill in certain gaps no problem. Dirty talk, ball-kissing, and/or leg nipping optional.
Honestly though, you should really just put the poor guy outta his misery and let him know you browse here too. Or if you don't, and he's finally worked up to showing you, welcome!